Saturday, January 22, 2022

Grandpa Vic (May 24, 1922 - January 7, 2022)

 

Amazing Grace,
how sweet the sound,
that saved a wretch like me;
I once was lost, but now am found,
was blind, but now I see.

Victor was born in Le Roy, Kansas, the second son of Justus A. and Franklyn Elrod Smith. He was raised in Southern California, and after graduation from John C. Fremont High School in Los Angeles in 1940, he attended Compton Junior College prior to enlisting in the Air Corps in 1942. His wartime experience was as a Navigator-Bombardier in the Southwest Pacific area where he flew 46 combat missions in B-25 aircraft of the 38th Bomb Group, 5th Air Force.

After graduation from the Colorado School on Mines as a Metallurgical Engineer in 1949, Vic married a red-haired graduate from Children's Hospital, the love of his life, Frances Louise Quillen, who had just completed her degree in Nursing Education at Denver University. They celebrated their 55th wedding anniversary in Yosemite with their family in 2004.

He started working for the United States Steel Corp at a small mill in Torrance, CA but was recalled during the Korean War where he served in the Flight Research Lab, Wright Field, Ohio developing high strength aircraft steels.

Returning to USS, he worked at the Pittsburg, CA mill for two years, then to San Francisco where he spent the remainder of his engineering career in Customer Technical Service on the West Coast and Hawaii. He retired in 1978 after 29 years, volunteered at the Oakland Zoo, became a General Building Contractor, and finally permanently retired from the handyman occupation in 2000.

Vic loved the Lord and read the Bible every day. He was active in the Orinda and Lafayette United Methodist Churches. He enjoyed fly fishing, hunting and the outdoors. He hiked the John Muir Trail, completing the last section with his daughter Melanie in 1995. In recent years he hiked several miles every week with his old friend Dal Sellman.

He is survived by his wife Frances, and his children, Ann Louise Gimbel (Frank) of Lafayette, David Justus Smith of Faraway Ranch (Cindy), and Melanie Jane Ruesch of Shingletown (Scott); and grand daughters Dana Geimer (Ray), and Lisa Breuer (Martin), Cody Gimbel (Brenda), Casey Smith (Lacey), and Josh Smith (Erin), and Jeremiah Ruesch (Elizabeth), and Greatgrandchildren Cheyenne Meeks, Cassidy and Blake Geimer, Alton and Joanna Smith, Oskar and Alva Breuer, Malakiah Reusch, and Ada Mae Smith.

Shortly after Christmas he contracted pneumonia and passed away peacefully with his wife of 72 years by his side. A memorial service is planned for June.

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At the age of 99, Grandpa Vic had plenty of time to prepare for his death and wrote the above I am guessing a few years ago, making updates as needed. While it is perfect for an obituary, it doesn’t quite capture how I will remember him. So here is my attempt to capture everything my Grandpa was.

He was a man who loved fried chicken, biscuits with honey and butter and had an insatiable sweet tooth. He was also known to sometimes lick the bowl clean after eating ice cream. In fact every time the kids try the same thing at home they mention him.

He was always so good about taking photos during every family gathering. You could always count on him to take a few candid shots of the family and ask for a few smiles, unfortunately he rarely found himself in front of the camera. Prior to buying a smart phone he would carry around his old digital camera.

He loved button down shirts and I honestly can’t remember him wearing anything other than them. They always had at least one breast pocket where he would keep a notepad to take notes about what was going on in our lives.

He devoted his life to serving others, whether it was helping out a family member, community member or volunteering.

He might have been a tad old fashioned when it came to relationships but had our best interests at heart.   When Dana and Ray first started dating he quipped “You aren’t still shacking up with that Rusty fellow”. And he casually asked Martin what his intentions were for our relationship after coming over to San Francisco to see our new house with Granny.

He loved god and was genuinely concerned for our souls. One year, shortly after Martin and I got married Grandpa sent us a DVD and a heartfelt letter about accepting Jesus into our hearts and why it was important to him for us to watch the enclosed video about Jesus Christ. I was slightly insulted at first thinking it was specific to just me and Martin (especially since I was the only grandchild then and now to have been actually married in a church) but come to find out he sent a similar letter along with the DVD to everyone in the family. 

Despite his best efforts, the grandkids (now grown) would still chuckle while he said grace before each meal.

He and Granny Fran always had a jigsaw puzzle in the works at their house and he always started with the edge pieces first (a fun fact I learned the weekend of his death as Granny, my mom and I spent time starting, then finishing their new 1,000 piece puzzle.) 

He had a Midwest accent even after all of the years living in CA and a hearty laughing. And he always gave a big hug and kiss on the cheek when saying hello and goodbye.

He loved the outdoors, fishing, hiking and Yosemite. And I was lucky enough to hike to the top of Mt Dana with him, my dad and Aunt Melanie after everyone else gave up along the way.

And most importantly, I am so thankful for having had so much time with him. It is not that often a man lives to be 99 years old and be so composed and mentally available (he gave up driving only a year ago).  It was my honor to have had so many memories and moments with him and to have my kids meet him as well. 

We will miss you. 

Friday, January 7, 2022

Speaking of Books…

One of my favorite pastimes is lying about my name and profession to random people at the bar. It started back in 2003 when someone asked what I did for a living and they didn’t recognize KPMG as the large accounting firm. So naturally I told them that it was a radio station where I worked in Ad Sales but was hoping to eventually get on air and I sometimes DJ for in the early hours from 2-4am.

It took on a life of its own from there: Ashley in waste management, Jennifer, who doesn’t really need to work, and my favorite Jessica the children’s book illustrator.

Today I made that last one a little closer to truth.

After 2.5 years since first posting about this, I found an artist who could make my sketches come to life, proofed more than a few copies to make sure it was perfect, and shamelessly posted about it on Instagram and Facebook, and now my book is finally available for sale!

Below is the link if you are interested in purchasing a copy or two or ten.  If you enjoy it, please leave a review, and if you don’t, please remember I am just an accountant / Radio Sales Rep / DJ / waste management employee / trust funder and this isn’t my day job!

Google Books - to buy the hardcover from your favorite shop

Amazon Books - to buy both the hardcover and paperback

In the meantime, here is a sneak peak: 



The Original Concept

Brought to life by an amazing artist

Thursday, January 6, 2022

Books of 2021

Another year, another set of amazing books enjoyed!  Thank god for the library kindle app as this would have quite expensive otherwise! 

Homeland Elegies, Ayad Akhtar

The Vanishing Half, Brit Bennett

Pride and Prejudice, Jane Austen

War, Margaret Macmillan

The Midnight Library, Matt Haig

Beach Read, Emily Henry

All Quiet on the Western Front, Erich Maria Remarque

Normal People, Sally Rooney

The Splendid and the Vile, Erik Larson

Mediocre, Ijeoma Oluo

The Paradox of Choice, Barry Schwartz

Beloved, Toni Morrison

Burnout, Emily Nagoski, Amelia Nagoski

Interpreter of Maladies, Jhumpa Lahiri

New Yorkers, Craig Taylor

The Quiet Boy, Ben H Winters

The Others, Sarah Blau

The Babysitter, Liza Rodman, Jennifer Jordan

Crying in H Mart, Michelle Zauner

The Premonition, Michael Lewis

Circe, Madeline Miller

The Maidens, Alex Michaelides

How the Word is Passed, Clint Smith

The Disappearing Act, Catherine Steadman

Battle Cry of Freedom, James M. McPherson

The Subtle Art of Not giving a Fuck, Mark Manson

Stupid Shit I Won’t Do When I Get Older, Steven Petrow

House of Gucci, Sara Gay Forden

Long Bright River, Liz Moore

Trick Mirror, Jia Tolentino

The Picture of Dorian Grey, Oscar Wilde

The Right to Sex, Amia Srinivasan

A Lie Someone Told You About Yourself, Peter Ho Davies

Burnt Sugar, Avni Doshi

How to Slowly Kill Yourself and Others in America, Kiese Laymon*

Wayward, Dana Spiotta*

The Copenhagen Trilogy, Tove Dittlevsen*

Intimacies, Katie Kitamura*

Afterparties, Anthony Veasna So*

Velvet Was the Night, Silvia Moreno Garcia*

*I somehow read all of these the last two weeks of December when the in laws were in town.  It is amazing the focus I can have when not vegging on the couch watching TV every night.

Some Christmas Cheer

What can I say, sometimes I hit a creative spark and the words and stories just flow and sometimes I am sober and actually have to work (although not always at the same time). For some reason these past two plus weeks have hit a spring of inspiration. Below are a few stories from the past two weeks while the German in laws were in town!

The Return of the Germans

After exactly two years of COVID and corresponding lockdowns and uncertainty, we were able to see the German in laws again!  As soon as the travel ban was lifted in November, the German Family, Annegret, Ernst and Meike, had their flights purchased and travel plans confirmed to come to San Francisco for Christmas. Annegret and Ernst arrived Thursday December 16, staying through January 5 and Meike joined the party from December 20 through the 30.  Luckily for Martin and me, Annegret and Ernst’s plans happened to line up perfectly with the German School winter break which meant extra time with the kids for them and less stress about trying to juggle work and childcare the few days before Christmas for us.  

While 3 weeks might seem like a lot for your in-laws to stay with you in your tiny apartment in San Francisco (or at least it would have seemed like a lot to me just a few years prior), the time flew by and I wish they could have stayed longer (I can’t believe I just wrote this).

It was a blur of too much coffee and cake (which included 11 different types of baked sweets and a newly purchased 12 shot espresso maker), the kids running on fumes every day but having the best time, introducing the family to few new traditions such as silly super and dino tacos, and the always entertaining experience of opening presents Christmas Eve with the Breuers (you never know what will happen… this year, I got the thoughtful gift of Irish coffee glasses from Annegret, which unfortunately for Annegret I had already bought for myself the year prior and, when opening up another present from Annegret and Ernst, I  asked Ernst if it was from him to which he responded “it would seem so”).

Our Christmas Tree came down on Monday after new year’s eve and the family said goodbye on Wednesday and now our house feels so much quiet and more empty than normal. And going against our best advice and usual approach, we don’t have the next trip scheduled yet.  Fingers and toes crossed either the vaccine becomes available for Alva or things start to look a little less bleak in time for a summer vacation to Europe to see them again. 





Monday, January 3, 2022

World Traveller?

Speaking of travelling the globe… Not to toot my own horn, but I might be considered a world traveler? Or at least I was one in my previous, pre-kids life.

With Christmas money from Aunt Nancy and Uncle Larry (thank you both!) I bought the National Geographic “1,000 Perfect Weekends” book to both day dream about the days when we can travel abroad again and to brainstorm about potential weekends in California and nearby that we can do in the near future.

I am super excited about a few places for me and the family to check out (which are included below), but more than anything I was surprised by how many places I have already been to. So far I have visited more than a few locations from their various Top Ten Lists: 

And then there were those locations that warranted a little more than a top ten mention in the book for which I am lucky enough to have visited, including: Valparaiso (although why everyone seems to love this city is lost on me), Bend Oregon (clearly should also be mentioned in top ten Food Destinations, but I suppose Cody hasn’t opened his restaurant yet), South Tyrol (having visited too many times to count), the Torres Del Paine W Trail in Patagonia, the Dordogne region in France (thanks to Martin for planning an amazing trip for my 30th), the Napali Coast State Park in Kauai, Balboa Park in San Diego, the Giant’s Causeway in Ireland, two of the stops on my African Adventure with my mom including Durban and the Zulu kingdom and Kruger National Park, hiking in Truckee and last, but definitely not least, the weekend getaway of a Bridges, Bay and Bluffs road trip on Hwy 1 (for which we did every weekend during the first year of COVID).

While I would clearly love to tackle all of the remaining spots in the book such as those in New Zealand, Asia or even the East Coast or South, I have become somewhat of a realistic (also known as a really tired mom).  So I have set my sights on the following few for the upcoming year or two: Sedona (for both the red rocks and the spas), Jacksonville OR (known for its laidback and ecofriendly wine region) and possibly taking a ride on the Cascades Amtrak (which is one of the Top Ten Train Rides).  And when we finally make it over to Europe for an extended vacation I would love to go camping with the kids at D’Olde Kano Andean in the Netherlands and then sneak away with Martin to either Tivoli Rome, Schloss Elmau in Germany or Terme di Saturnia in Italy.

I guess what I am trying to say is I have been pretty lucky so far and yet there is still plenty to see and dream about.

And if you want to save yourself the money of buying the book feel free take my travel advice instead by reading the blog.

Sunday, January 2, 2022

Culinary Tour

On one of the last nights with Martin’s parents in town, Ernst made the comment that it wasn’t too long ago that the only type of food you could get in Germany (or at least their part of Germany) was German food.  It got me to thinking of all of the yummy food we had eaten over the past 3 weeks and how much I take for granted the options and variety that comes with living in San Francisco. 

During their stay, we ate: sushi, dim sum, Nepalese, Mexican, French, Italian, American, German, Swedish and Danish.  We ordered food in from amazing local restaurants and cooked delicious meals at home. We had seafood, meat fondue and even a vegan pasta dish.

We truly took a culinary tour of the world! 

But quite possibly the highlight for me was having Annegret and Meike ask for not 1, not 2 but 3 of my recipes!  This is the same Annegret who is quick to remark when something isn’t for her.  So when she wants a recipe, I have to assume it was a good one.  The three winning recipes:

Earl Grey Tea Cake

Cranberry Lemon Bars

Green Chili Pork Tacos

In addition to asking for recipes, they gave me kudos for the Pineapple Chicken I made up in Timber Cove (praise not given directly to me, but rather discussed in German to each other while I was doing the dishes… little do they know that while I don’t understand much German, I do understand Food German). Confirmation of my cooking abilities might have been the best present ever.

Just one of the amazing meals we had... I ordered enough Dim Sum for two meals!


A New Holiday tradition

This year, through a suggestion from my high school friend Nickie, we started a new tradition at New Years.  It is that of destroying and then actually eating our gingerbread houses.

For the past few years we have made gingerbread houses with the kids and every year, they sit on our kitchen counter until mid-January when we finally get annoyed cooking around them and we throw the whole thing away.  Instead, this year, we gave the kids the option to try and break their houses and then eat a few pieces before it was thrown away. 

While the videos of Nickie’s kids are fun: each boy smiling while he smashes his house easily with his fist, ours was not so photo ready.  I will blame the German engineering. All four of us tried to break the houses and all four of us failed.  The construction was too sound and the house possibly too stale to break.  We ended up turning the house over to break from the inside out.

The end result was the same.  Another sugar high for the two kids thanks to Christmas.